We frequent the playground way to often, sometimes twice a day. And it never fails, every time we are there there's always, I mean always a mom micromanaging their kid. "Don't do this, don't do that" "go up the ladder and down the slide" "stop yelling, slow down" "let the little boy go first" "share your toys or we'll go home" and on and on.
Enough is enough mamas. If kids can't be kids at the playground then where can they let loose and be free? I bring Edward to the playground to run around, be free and to have fun. He's got so much energy that we would go bonkers if we stayed home. It's also a great opportunity for him to learn how to deal with other kids. If I am constantly telling him how to play, then how will he learn to do it his way? He's a small person with feelings and there's only so much teaching a parent can do, learning through playing is equally important.
Don't get me wrong, if a child is hurting, teasing or bullying another kid, there's NO place for that at the playground or anywhere else. I'm referring to the daily interactions of kids at the playground.
So why can't these mamas let go? Do they want to be in charge of their child's every move? Or do they feel judged, that their child's actions reflects their parenting?
Whatever it is, I'm just tired of it. I feel so bad for these kids, really I do. Because one day these littles will be bigs and mom won't be around, so will they know how to act? Will they know what to do? Are we still hand-holding our children to become these needy and whiny adults? I hope not.
What are your thoughts? What kind of playground parent are you?
Love lots,
Mommy SF
Enough is enough mamas. If kids can't be kids at the playground then where can they let loose and be free? I bring Edward to the playground to run around, be free and to have fun. He's got so much energy that we would go bonkers if we stayed home. It's also a great opportunity for him to learn how to deal with other kids. If I am constantly telling him how to play, then how will he learn to do it his way? He's a small person with feelings and there's only so much teaching a parent can do, learning through playing is equally important.
Don't get me wrong, if a child is hurting, teasing or bullying another kid, there's NO place for that at the playground or anywhere else. I'm referring to the daily interactions of kids at the playground.
So why can't these mamas let go? Do they want to be in charge of their child's every move? Or do they feel judged, that their child's actions reflects their parenting?
Whatever it is, I'm just tired of it. I feel so bad for these kids, really I do. Because one day these littles will be bigs and mom won't be around, so will they know how to act? Will they know what to do? Are we still hand-holding our children to become these needy and whiny adults? I hope not.
What are your thoughts? What kind of playground parent are you?
Love lots,
Mommy SF
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Amen, mama! I wish I could micromanage my kid when it comes to other kids....BUT...my kid is 2 and we all know how wonderful that age is. Sooo...like you said, aside from the hitting or kicking or biting, I feel like kids should learn to work their own problems out. If you can't let them try to solve some of their own issues, they'll never learn their ability and/or learn to cope with different situations. I wish I cared enough to stop my kid from pouring sand in her shoes/shirt/shorts/hair. I'll wash her down in the shower and if she hates it...well, she'll learn that's the consequence of pouring sand everywhere on your body. LOL. Please don't judge me. Or do. I think lots of moms are scared of being judged and that makes me sad because we all share something so special in being mothers and we should have support for one another. We're all just trying to survive. LOL!
ReplyDeleteKat, thanks for your supportive comment. There are so many times were I feel so alone on this topic. Again maybe it's all because we feel judged and no one wants to admit it or have their child be the "naughty kid". Lord knows, if anyone should be a micromanager it should be me, since Edward is always a challenge.
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